I am reworking an older canvas. It's a piece from my original series of OCTOBER ROSES. In 2006, Shortly after my daughter Fiona was born I learned that my college friend, Melissa, had Breast Cancer. I was struck feeling helpless and guilty for not being closer, or available to be helpful I was in relatively good health. I was happy with my third baby and I started to cry.... because I suddenly felt like everything I had would be missed by my friend.
I got over my emotions (sort of) and then I got mad, and angry. I have heard this from many friends and family members who are stuck not knowing what to say, what to do, how to help, when to jump in, or when to stand back...
What do you need? How can I help? Please let me know.... so meal trains, support teams, making blankets, donating hair, or whatever it is be sure to make yourself available and be patient, and wait.... but don't hover.... right???
For me, I dove into my art. Not being close by (she was in Napa, I'm in So.Cal I had to do something. ) I created the Melissa Project, and every October I dedicate to painting Roses and Donate to Breast Cancer Support and Education. I did the Walk, I share her story.
Each July I will speak to Melissa, we catch up and share updates about life.... last summer I missed that call. And in my gut I was denying myself the reality. I was too uncomfortable to call her parents.
This year I listened to my heart and made that phonecall, and felt such comfort speaking with her father. Yes, Melissa passed away, October 2014. He and I spoke for some time and he thanked me for the years of friendship with her. 20 years.
Melissa fought for 10 years, and always with a brave face and pleasant demeanor. I remember her soft spoken curiosity about art, my kids, her flare for fashion, and love for the world.
So now, I move on and think fondly of my friend, and others who have fought and try to focus in their honor.
This Canvas will be the centerpiece of this years collection. In Memory of Melissa.
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